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June 2, 2015

LOVE RULE: Be Willing To Be Challenged

By Angela Beeler

This is a hard one, you guys. No one said that #LoveRules were easy, and today's rule is most definitely not. All month long we're discussing ways to build community and intentionally love others, and this rule might not seem like a Love Rule, but it is.

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Whether you're in a leadership position, an online influencer, a fitness instructor, a mom or an employee...you must willing to be challenged. Why? Because in that place of challenge you grow.

Look, it's hard to admit you're wrong. It's hard to receive negative feedback. It's difficult to watch your competition soar. It's uncomfortable to disagree with a co-worker. But in each of these situations, a deeper understanding and wisdom takes root and allows you to grow in the right direction.

Starting our own business has been filled with many challenges along the way. We've had to work hard to maintain our friendship with each other while also being business partners...and it hasn't been easy. We've learned that iron sharpens iron, and we've become stronger because of the desire to see the best unearthed in each other. It's been the most loving (albeit difficult) process to get face to face and knee to knee with each other and say "Hey, this isn't working..how can we be better?" or "This isn't who you are...what's going on?"  Through these conversations we've learned that challenging each other was less about changing the individual and more about strengthening the team.

The probing process is scary and frustrating.  But it's also very worth it because the fruit of being "known" and "seen" can usher in the kind of growth that bypasses the all-too-common "self-made" philosophy.  Community changes people, and change is often a result of challenging conversations and processes.

So be willing to submit yourself, your ideas, your thoughts and your behavior to challenge and do so within a community of people you trust. That place of challenge will become the catalyst for the change that unearths the very best YOU.

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QUESTION: Have you gone through a challenging process that ushered in growth and change?  What did you learn?  And more importantly, WHO did you discover?

 

4 COMMENTS

Stephanie

9 years ago

Good morning Angela, Great #loverules point! One of the most recent things that has challenged me more than I ever expected it to was becoming a part-time babysitter. I love the little guy I babysit to pieces and feel like a second Mom to him, but I was not prepared for how God was going to use this tiny man to so radically change my life. Discipline and priorities are something I've know I needed to work on for a bit now but with more of a relaxed schedule it was not as crucial. Now I am forced to figure it out or live in a season on stress and lack of balance and time crisis every day. Wow! Do I appreciate Mom's so much more now! It hasn't been easy and I'm still learning but God has earnestly challenged me to rise up and make the essential changes that need to take place. Funny how you think you know exactly who you are and how you do (and will continue to do) life. Then God brings something into your life that gives you a clear and humbling view of who you are. No facades, no masks, no making it pretty. Honesty. It's hard sometimes to see yourself for who you are, when you have a perception of yourself that might not be all truth. It's challenging to take an honest look in the mirror and ask yourself the hard questions and see the real answers of what's in your heart. But thank God we are all works in progress and when we start with honesty we then have a platform for true transformation. It takes time and it's a choice, but God is challenging and refining me through this hard but oh so needed process. I'm learning to embrace hard things, because most often they are the most fruitful times of my life. Thank you for the reminder! {Hugs} Stephanie

Frances Caton

9 years ago

I lost my husband of 46 years in January of 2014. When January of 2015 rolled around I realized that I had survived! Although it was a painful year, I learned that I am a survivor and that I have strength that I didn’t know I had (the strength that only comes from God!) In October of 2014 I decided to go to the REFIT training in Nashville. I wasn’t going with the intention of teaching REFIT (since I had been leading an Aerobics Ministry at my church for more than 25 years.) I went to get refreshed and to be perfectly honest….to get away. God had other plans! After attending the session I was certainly refreshed, but more than that God was prompting me to get younger ladies involved in teaching and it seemed REFIT was the way to go! I started teaching REFIT in January two nights a week. This was a physical challenge for me since I was already teaching three morning classes a week and I am in my sixties! It was also a mental challenge because I had been teaching “freestyle” for so long and I didn’t have the confidence that I would be able to memorize routines. As it turned out, God saw me through both of those challenges and I have learned (once again) that “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!” Now I have three beautiful REFIT certified young women leading those night classes and they are fabulous and I am so proud of them! I am teaching REFIT in my morning classes and everyone loves it! And I have learned this too: God blesses us when we step out of our comfort zone to do something in His Name! And…..I have discovered I am a Survivor!

Angela Beeler

9 years ago

High school friendships really are the most difficult...but sadly, I have found adult friendships to be equally difficult!

Brooke Donner

9 years ago

I went through a challenging time in my life when I lost my two closest high school friends. We weren't growing together and decided it was best to part ways. This was such a difficult, lonely time for me. BUT through it I learned how to handle things on my own, and started to enjoy my own company. Most importantly, I FOUND ME!! I had been hiding so deeply inside this trio of friends that the real ME hadn't had a chance to shine!!

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